If you have a friend who has a friend that is gay, then you don’t feel uncomfortable messaging them online, and you can use this space to talk to them about your experiences,” he said. “Yeah I think using a social networking site like Facebook helps because it increases your chances that you will find someone that you can talk to. He says using Facebook is the easiest way for him to find other men because he is not openly gay, and also does not feel comfortable expressing his sexuality in public. One of my gay male friends is notorious for using Facebook to find hook-ups and establish relationships.